Its well known that the easiest way to give a woman an orgasm is through direct or indirect clitoral stimulation. Learning how to stimulate the clitoris will make it much easier for you to give a woman sexual satisfaction and intense orgasmic pleasure.
The clitoris is a small bean shaped mass of flesh located by the vaginal entrance at the top of the labia minora. Its often covered by a clitoral hood to give it protection throughout the day because its very sensitive due to the high concentration of nerve endings that it contains. The clitoris extends all the way to the bottom of the pubic bone and only a small part is actually visible.
Its important to point out that the clitoris can't be sufficiently stimulated by the penis alone which is one of the reasons why so many women fail to reach orgasm. This means that traditional intercourse usually needs to be accompanied with manual clitoral stimulation using your fingers if you want to give her the kind of orgasmic pleasure that she craves.
Some couples prefer to bring each other to orgasm separately which can be very effective but its usually not the most satisfactory approach. A much better option would be to stimulate the clitoris during intercourse as this can be a great way for couples to reach orgasm at the same time.
Its important to experiment because not all women like the same type of stimulation. Some women enjoy direct stimulation but others may find it slightly uncomfortable and prefer to have the area around the clitoris stimulated instead. Women who have experimented with masturbation in the past will usually know what type of stimulation they prefer so you just have to ask.
When a woman becomes aroused during foreplay, the clitoris fills up with blood and becomes erect in a similar way to the penis. After repeated stimulation, it will become fully engorged which further heightens its sensitivity until a point is reached when all of the tension in the area must be released in the form of an orgasm. Its the build up of sexual tension and arousal that will ensure that you have the best chance of bringing her to orgasm.
Clitoral orgasms can be achieved in many different ways so its important to find out exactly what your partner likes and dislikes which is why communication is essential. Since the area around the clitoris is highly sensitive, experimenting with these types of orgasms can help to spice up your sex life and make you more enthusiastic about having intercourse on a regular basis.
Andy Edmonds
Sunday, October 25, 2009
Three Tricks to stop Premature ejaculation
The harmful effects of ejaculating prematurely go far beyond problems in the bedroom. Beyond being embarrassing, it can cause problems all around the relationship. And for all this, many men are looking for a solution, so here are three tricks to stop premature ejaculation.
First, for one of the more fun tricks to stop premature ejaculation, I absolutely recommend that you try experimenting with different sexual positions. It's very possible that you'll find one is less sensitive for you but is just as pleasurable for your partner. This way you can resort to this position anytime you need to, and meanwhile this also encourages experimentation the bedroom which is a great way to get your sexual relationship back on track.
Another one of these tricks to stop premature ejaculation involves nutrition. There are changes to be made in your diet which can affect your hormone level. Hormones play arguably the largest role in causing a man to ejaculate prematurely, so focusing on a more vegetarian based diet can have a substantial effect on your ability to control your orgasm.
The last of these tricks to stop premature ejaculation entails doing simple exercises which you can do to retrain your body to last longer when engaging in sexual intercourse. Many men pick up and develop bad masturbatory habits earlier on in their lives and for this your body needs to be retrained by doing some of the many exercises designed to give you greater control over your orgasm and benefit your sexual health in other ways, as well.
by Peter Doyers
First, for one of the more fun tricks to stop premature ejaculation, I absolutely recommend that you try experimenting with different sexual positions. It's very possible that you'll find one is less sensitive for you but is just as pleasurable for your partner. This way you can resort to this position anytime you need to, and meanwhile this also encourages experimentation the bedroom which is a great way to get your sexual relationship back on track.
Another one of these tricks to stop premature ejaculation involves nutrition. There are changes to be made in your diet which can affect your hormone level. Hormones play arguably the largest role in causing a man to ejaculate prematurely, so focusing on a more vegetarian based diet can have a substantial effect on your ability to control your orgasm.
The last of these tricks to stop premature ejaculation entails doing simple exercises which you can do to retrain your body to last longer when engaging in sexual intercourse. Many men pick up and develop bad masturbatory habits earlier on in their lives and for this your body needs to be retrained by doing some of the many exercises designed to give you greater control over your orgasm and benefit your sexual health in other ways, as well.
by Peter Doyers
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
Danger - These 10 Mistakes can kill your relationhip
No relationship is perfect. However, there are several serious pitfalls that will end a relationship very quickly if you don't try to avoid them.
The 10 items below are some of the most common and serious mistakes than can keep you from having the lasting relationship you want.
1. Cheating.
Being unfaithful is the number one way to end a relationship. If you want to see someone else, be responsible enough to end your relationship first. Anything else is just being dishonest and cowardly.
2. Hanging on to Your Ex.
While it's very important to remember your past mistakes, it's also important to move on. If you're still hung up on your ex, perhaps it's too early to start a new relationship. Even when you think you have no feelings left, if you're stuck in a pattern of bringing up your ex all the time when you talk with your new partner, you should do some serious thinking about where you've been and where you're heading. Your current partner deserves your full attention. It's only fair.
3. Rushing Things.
Relationships develop at their own pace. Some move quickly, others move slowly and steadily. If you push your partner too much, you risk pushing them away. Two prime examples of this are the timing of physical intimacy and saying "I love you." Both of these things are best when they happen naturally. You'll both know when the time is right and the relationship won't be strained.
4. Being Ruled by Jealousy.
Often feelings of intense jealousy are caused by past relationships. If your partner is open and honest, you shouldn't feel threatened by incidental contact with someone else. Conversation and interaction is normal. Trust is also important. If you become jealous with your partner without real cause, it can seriously harm your relationship.
5. Focusing too Much on the Future.
When relationships are new, it's not the time to dwell too much on the future. Live for the day. The flush of excitement of a new relationship only happens once. Instead of worrying about what's coming next, enjoy what you have now. Often when one partner is too concerned about the future, the other partner is scared away thinking that they are too serious. Again, live for the moment and enjoy where you are.
6. Failure to Balance Friendships With the Relationship.
It's important for each of you to have friends. People often take things very personally when someone talks badly about a friend. Because of these two things, it's critical to allow your partner time with and for their friends while avoiding talking badly about them. No one is perfect - most of our friends have quirks. Just remember that your friends can be a little strange, too. Finally, don't feel threatened when your partner wants to do something with their friends.
7. Failure to Communicate.
Open honest communication is one of the most important things in a healthy relationship. When you keep secrets or even feel too embarrassed to discuss your thoughts, it can build walls between you and your partner. Yes, there is a risk that your feelings or thoughts might end up causing problems in the relationship. However, if there's a break-up because you're not compatible, that's OK. In fact it's far better to find that out than to pretend you're something you're not.
8. Forcing your Partner to Change.
This is the flip-side of #7. If you can't accept who your partner is, you probably should find someone else. When you force your partner to change, there is often resentment and the changes rarely last. Even when a partner has a real problem, we can't "fix" them. We can encourage, but if they don't commit to the change on their own, it just won't happen.
9. Blaming Your Partner.
A relationship takes two people. So do relationship problems. It can be very difficult and often painful to admit our part in relationship problems, but an honest look at our actions is critical. If you expect your partner to face the blame for a problem all alone, don't be surprised when they don't want to do anything else with your either.
10. Staying After the Feeling is Gone.
If you're just going through the motions in a relationship, your partner knows it. If the relationship is worth saving, you both need to talk and find a way to reignite the spark If not, you should be honest enough to admit that the relationship is over. Often we're stuck in these ruts because the uncomfortable "known" seems better than the scary "unknown." In reality, a flat relationship will not last, and will often lead to serious conflict.
by Doug
The 10 items below are some of the most common and serious mistakes than can keep you from having the lasting relationship you want.
1. Cheating.
Being unfaithful is the number one way to end a relationship. If you want to see someone else, be responsible enough to end your relationship first. Anything else is just being dishonest and cowardly.
2. Hanging on to Your Ex.
While it's very important to remember your past mistakes, it's also important to move on. If you're still hung up on your ex, perhaps it's too early to start a new relationship. Even when you think you have no feelings left, if you're stuck in a pattern of bringing up your ex all the time when you talk with your new partner, you should do some serious thinking about where you've been and where you're heading. Your current partner deserves your full attention. It's only fair.
3. Rushing Things.
Relationships develop at their own pace. Some move quickly, others move slowly and steadily. If you push your partner too much, you risk pushing them away. Two prime examples of this are the timing of physical intimacy and saying "I love you." Both of these things are best when they happen naturally. You'll both know when the time is right and the relationship won't be strained.
4. Being Ruled by Jealousy.
Often feelings of intense jealousy are caused by past relationships. If your partner is open and honest, you shouldn't feel threatened by incidental contact with someone else. Conversation and interaction is normal. Trust is also important. If you become jealous with your partner without real cause, it can seriously harm your relationship.
5. Focusing too Much on the Future.
When relationships are new, it's not the time to dwell too much on the future. Live for the day. The flush of excitement of a new relationship only happens once. Instead of worrying about what's coming next, enjoy what you have now. Often when one partner is too concerned about the future, the other partner is scared away thinking that they are too serious. Again, live for the moment and enjoy where you are.
6. Failure to Balance Friendships With the Relationship.
It's important for each of you to have friends. People often take things very personally when someone talks badly about a friend. Because of these two things, it's critical to allow your partner time with and for their friends while avoiding talking badly about them. No one is perfect - most of our friends have quirks. Just remember that your friends can be a little strange, too. Finally, don't feel threatened when your partner wants to do something with their friends.
7. Failure to Communicate.
Open honest communication is one of the most important things in a healthy relationship. When you keep secrets or even feel too embarrassed to discuss your thoughts, it can build walls between you and your partner. Yes, there is a risk that your feelings or thoughts might end up causing problems in the relationship. However, if there's a break-up because you're not compatible, that's OK. In fact it's far better to find that out than to pretend you're something you're not.
8. Forcing your Partner to Change.
This is the flip-side of #7. If you can't accept who your partner is, you probably should find someone else. When you force your partner to change, there is often resentment and the changes rarely last. Even when a partner has a real problem, we can't "fix" them. We can encourage, but if they don't commit to the change on their own, it just won't happen.
9. Blaming Your Partner.
A relationship takes two people. So do relationship problems. It can be very difficult and often painful to admit our part in relationship problems, but an honest look at our actions is critical. If you expect your partner to face the blame for a problem all alone, don't be surprised when they don't want to do anything else with your either.
10. Staying After the Feeling is Gone.
If you're just going through the motions in a relationship, your partner knows it. If the relationship is worth saving, you both need to talk and find a way to reignite the spark If not, you should be honest enough to admit that the relationship is over. Often we're stuck in these ruts because the uncomfortable "known" seems better than the scary "unknown." In reality, a flat relationship will not last, and will often lead to serious conflict.
by Doug
5 Easy ways to enhance your relationship
The quality of your relationship is gauged by how you talk to each other. Loving each other guarantees nothing. But learning how to talk with each other and putting it into practice, ensures your relationship will work.
As long as you and your spouse talk to each other, you can resolve anything.
By adding an intimate tone to your interaction, you re-vitalize and breathe life back into a relationship, even a faltering one.
What is intimate conversation? It occurs when you speak in earnest, about any topic. Almost hypnotic in the hold it exerts on you both, you tune in to each other completely.
Whether talking about rugby or the economy, politics or your family, talk with everything you have. Look at each other, listen to each other, hear each other. Then respond. This is intimate conversation.
Think back to last weekend. You had two days and three nights in which you had ample opportunity for communicating. What you spoke about is less important than how intensely you talked about it. Did you communicate in grunts, groans, half-sentences and incomplete statements? Or was there an earnestness about your talking?
With that as your basis, here are five guidelines guaranteed to make your relationship flourish:
1. Use "I" instead of "you". Let us look at two examples: "Why do you always add so much salt when you cook?" and "I would prefer less salt in the soup."
The first is a "you" statement. It places the burden on the other person, has an accusatory tone, will probably result in her defensively lashing out, and could well be the beginning of an unpleasant spat.
With the "I" message, you take responsibility for the idea, simply stating your personal preference.
Try eliminate all "you" statements and express your opinions as your own. Instead of saying, "You cannot help but like her," say "I like her." Instead of saying, "You would be foolish to do that," say "I would feel foolish doing that."
When you hear a "you" coming out your mouth, stop it. Only when you accept total responsibility for what you feel and say, will the other person be able to respond, otherwise how does she know what you really want.
2. Respond to what your spouse said. If you come home one afternoon and your husband asked, "Did you pick up the dry cleaning?" And you reply, "What? Do I have to do everything around here? How about you helping out for a change?" And before you know it, his simple question escalates into a verbal bloodletting.
The problem is not that you voiced your pent-up frustration; the problem is how you did it.
A better way would have been to complete the transaction by answering his original question, "No, I forgot to pick up the dry cleaning." Then you could have raised the issue of how you feel you do most of the work in your relationship. This needs to be addressed, but when you go off on a tangent without answering the original question, you catch him unaware.
3. Give your partner freedom of speech. When you judge and evaluate everything he says, he will clam up. Called a 'take-away', it takes away the legitimacy and validity of the other person's feelings.
For example, "How can you believe something like that?!" "Why would you do something like that?!" "I cannot believe you said that!"
The take-away is a lethal mixture of cynicism and incredulity, with no sure antidote. When it happens repeatedly, he may never revive his spirit.
Eliminate take-aways because they shut him up, make him feel foolish, and once he has been put down he is unlikely to speak up again soon.
4. Set aside regular talking time just for the two of you, despite your busy lives, because nothing is more important than frequent communication sessions.
Talk about how you are doing as a couple and how well your individual needs are being satisfied. Talk about everything remotely relevant to your relationship. If you feel something, get it out in the open, and the two of you can deal with it.
5. Do not label your partner or yourself. Labels make him easier to work with but we all change constantly. Let him be who he is, savor the stimulating effect of change, and enjoy your relationship with each other.
by Sharon Dell
As long as you and your spouse talk to each other, you can resolve anything.
By adding an intimate tone to your interaction, you re-vitalize and breathe life back into a relationship, even a faltering one.
What is intimate conversation? It occurs when you speak in earnest, about any topic. Almost hypnotic in the hold it exerts on you both, you tune in to each other completely.
Whether talking about rugby or the economy, politics or your family, talk with everything you have. Look at each other, listen to each other, hear each other. Then respond. This is intimate conversation.
Think back to last weekend. You had two days and three nights in which you had ample opportunity for communicating. What you spoke about is less important than how intensely you talked about it. Did you communicate in grunts, groans, half-sentences and incomplete statements? Or was there an earnestness about your talking?
With that as your basis, here are five guidelines guaranteed to make your relationship flourish:
1. Use "I" instead of "you". Let us look at two examples: "Why do you always add so much salt when you cook?" and "I would prefer less salt in the soup."
The first is a "you" statement. It places the burden on the other person, has an accusatory tone, will probably result in her defensively lashing out, and could well be the beginning of an unpleasant spat.
With the "I" message, you take responsibility for the idea, simply stating your personal preference.
Try eliminate all "you" statements and express your opinions as your own. Instead of saying, "You cannot help but like her," say "I like her." Instead of saying, "You would be foolish to do that," say "I would feel foolish doing that."
When you hear a "you" coming out your mouth, stop it. Only when you accept total responsibility for what you feel and say, will the other person be able to respond, otherwise how does she know what you really want.
2. Respond to what your spouse said. If you come home one afternoon and your husband asked, "Did you pick up the dry cleaning?" And you reply, "What? Do I have to do everything around here? How about you helping out for a change?" And before you know it, his simple question escalates into a verbal bloodletting.
The problem is not that you voiced your pent-up frustration; the problem is how you did it.
A better way would have been to complete the transaction by answering his original question, "No, I forgot to pick up the dry cleaning." Then you could have raised the issue of how you feel you do most of the work in your relationship. This needs to be addressed, but when you go off on a tangent without answering the original question, you catch him unaware.
3. Give your partner freedom of speech. When you judge and evaluate everything he says, he will clam up. Called a 'take-away', it takes away the legitimacy and validity of the other person's feelings.
For example, "How can you believe something like that?!" "Why would you do something like that?!" "I cannot believe you said that!"
The take-away is a lethal mixture of cynicism and incredulity, with no sure antidote. When it happens repeatedly, he may never revive his spirit.
Eliminate take-aways because they shut him up, make him feel foolish, and once he has been put down he is unlikely to speak up again soon.
4. Set aside regular talking time just for the two of you, despite your busy lives, because nothing is more important than frequent communication sessions.
Talk about how you are doing as a couple and how well your individual needs are being satisfied. Talk about everything remotely relevant to your relationship. If you feel something, get it out in the open, and the two of you can deal with it.
5. Do not label your partner or yourself. Labels make him easier to work with but we all change constantly. Let him be who he is, savor the stimulating effect of change, and enjoy your relationship with each other.
by Sharon Dell
Friday, October 16, 2009
How to Understand Body Language Secrets
Do you want to know about the secret of body language? In fact, your body and face delivers messages to other people about situation of your mood and your character. Your body language could be scaring other people away. Learn why, and find out what you can do about it.
Never think that people cannot understand this secret. Even when you do not say a word, other people can still learn a lot about what kind of person you are and what you are thinking and feeling.
The experts of body language state that only about 7% of our communication is delivered through the words we speak and the rest of our communication is delivered through our tone of voice, body language, and facial expressions.
Just remember that when you were baby, people around you could understand what you want by learning your mimic baby face. They are looking at your gestures, and listening to your little cries, trying to interpret what kind of mood you were and you wanted to say.
Have you ever seen someone stands with his arms across his chest? What do you interpret this kind of gesture? This is a signal that he does not want anyone to approach him? People will be afraid to approach this guy if they stand in this kind of position.
If you stand uncomfortably with your chest slumped forward and your shoulders sagging, then you are afraid of seeing other eyes of people. This will make other people think that you are very depressed or completely inferior. They could fear to talk with you because they may think that it would be an uncomfortable experience.
If you stand awkwardly, people will think that you are not confident. It seems that you are trying to disappear among people. Have you ever seen someone is holding his breath or breathing in a shallow? This gesture is a sign of anxiety. There is some body language secret that you can learn. Just for example giving too much smile does not mean that someone is happy but this could mean that he is nervous and forced.
Neil Q Tran
Never think that people cannot understand this secret. Even when you do not say a word, other people can still learn a lot about what kind of person you are and what you are thinking and feeling.
The experts of body language state that only about 7% of our communication is delivered through the words we speak and the rest of our communication is delivered through our tone of voice, body language, and facial expressions.
Just remember that when you were baby, people around you could understand what you want by learning your mimic baby face. They are looking at your gestures, and listening to your little cries, trying to interpret what kind of mood you were and you wanted to say.
Have you ever seen someone stands with his arms across his chest? What do you interpret this kind of gesture? This is a signal that he does not want anyone to approach him? People will be afraid to approach this guy if they stand in this kind of position.
If you stand uncomfortably with your chest slumped forward and your shoulders sagging, then you are afraid of seeing other eyes of people. This will make other people think that you are very depressed or completely inferior. They could fear to talk with you because they may think that it would be an uncomfortable experience.
If you stand awkwardly, people will think that you are not confident. It seems that you are trying to disappear among people. Have you ever seen someone is holding his breath or breathing in a shallow? This gesture is a sign of anxiety. There is some body language secret that you can learn. Just for example giving too much smile does not mean that someone is happy but this could mean that he is nervous and forced.
Neil Q Tran
The Right Time to send a Note
Do you ever say to yourself, I will get to writing that thank you in a day or so...then we put it off for another day, another week, another month and before you know it a year has past and we never got to sit down and jot down those few words on a note or piece of paper "thank you".
I know we are busy and there is so much going on in our life and before you know it we are turning on the computer and writing an email to someone or sending an electronic card to say thank you. Did that gift or favor come through the computer to you or did that person go out of their way to do something or shop for a gift for you. What does it take to put a few moments aside and write a thank you note. It is such a warm gesture on your part and shows the person who made the effort to do you that favor or buy you that gift that you really care and want them to know it.
I have been in that position myself where I want to hit the keys and just write thank you. It makes life so simple and convenient. I feel guilty when I do something like that, because I feel I did not put any effort into showing my appreciation and I know that writing a thank you note in a timely manner is greatly appreciated.
The right time is anytime you think of it, but the main thing is that you do it. Show your appreciation by dropping a line in the mail.
"Nothing Leaves An Impression Like A Lasting One"
Jacquline Coote
I know we are busy and there is so much going on in our life and before you know it we are turning on the computer and writing an email to someone or sending an electronic card to say thank you. Did that gift or favor come through the computer to you or did that person go out of their way to do something or shop for a gift for you. What does it take to put a few moments aside and write a thank you note. It is such a warm gesture on your part and shows the person who made the effort to do you that favor or buy you that gift that you really care and want them to know it.
I have been in that position myself where I want to hit the keys and just write thank you. It makes life so simple and convenient. I feel guilty when I do something like that, because I feel I did not put any effort into showing my appreciation and I know that writing a thank you note in a timely manner is greatly appreciated.
The right time is anytime you think of it, but the main thing is that you do it. Show your appreciation by dropping a line in the mail.
"Nothing Leaves An Impression Like A Lasting One"
Jacquline Coote
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